What kind of life should a Woman have?

I have a question in mind for sometimes, but I always cannot find the CORRECT answer to it.

My Question is :
What Kind of Life Should a Woman Have?
If she is married, must she put her husband, children at the 1st Place in her life? Or she should put herself to be 1st Place, do what she want, find her own happiness??

I really hope to know the answer..

Recently, the newspaper got a very HOT topic regarding the AWARE..
If I remember correctly, is abt the new management team talking abt lesbian and homosexual..

Can we really accept lesbian or homosexual?

Frankly speaking, I do have friends who are lesbian, homosexual..
To me, as a friend, I don't wear "COLOUR SPECTACLE" to see them.
They are still my friends regardless of what kind of relationship they have.
I always thought that those ppl who are lesbian or homosexual, they are borned with the opposite hormone in their bodies, thus, lead them to be what they are..
But I never ever realised that PEER PRESSURE can also lead someone who is "Normal" to be One!!

Let me share a story.
Recently there is someone who is very close to me has joined the "club".
Not that I cannot accept her, but I find her changes made me don't know how to react??
1st of all, if she is at her early 20 and she became one, I have no doubts and I would also support her to persue what she wanted to be..
But, in actual, this "someone"who is close me, is at her early 40 and married with kids!!
Now, she is telling me that she is willing to forsake her family and kids to persue what she wants in life in order to be HAPPY!
I find it ridiculous and I find it SUPER hard to accept!
I m sure that her changes is not due to inborn! Her changes mostly due to her new circle of friends she gets to know recently.
Although her husband is not a romantic, thoughtful kind. And he also likes to drink.. But, that do not contribute to her SUDDEN changes..
What abt the kids??
Have she ever spare a thought for the kids?
Is she correct to forsake the kids' happiness in order to exhange for what she so called "her own happiness"?

I really have many question marks in my head and I think I will never find the answers.

To me, as a woman, my thinking is that I could have a very colourful lifestyle before I got married. But once I became someone's wife, I have the responsiblity to uphold the "MRS". And if I have kids, I even more need to assure that my kids' happiness is more important than anything else in the world, cos I m the ONE who gave birth to them.. and I m the one who gone through the pain to bring them to this world.. thus, I have more responsibility than my husband to ensure my kids are well protected and leading a fruitful life.

Maybe my thinking is too conservative.

And I hope that "someone" is able to see the "light" soon to salvage the present situation before the situation becomes a "FINAL ANSWER"!
And also give a thought to her family. Due to her changes, the family is now like a plate of scattered sand.. her kids are under the care of a maid. How can the maid's care compared to her own care for the kids?
And also is it worth for her to forsake a husband who she shared her life for more than a decade?
What if all the so called "her happiness" is only a short term affair??

I have so many "what if", "worth or not to"etc on my mind....

p/s : If anyone find the topic uncomfortable, please don't carry on reading.
And please don't misunderstand me. I don't discrimnate "L" or "H".